Brad and Angelina in love like never at premier of Angelina’s new movie SALT! This makes for sure an end to all the rumors of seperation…And honestly who would like to see them break apart?? They represent our hollywood fairy tale =)
And Canada Top Single is…
July 19th, 2010
Finally after an amazing and fun summer lovin weekend event, we finally discovered the big winner of the Lavalife Top Single adventure…LTsmiley did conquer your votes!!
Speed Dating : give it a try…
July 2nd, 2010
I know that we have so many set ideas on speed dating but I really believe it can be a funny way to spend a night out with your friends. So why not exploring new options in the search of love? You have nothing to loose and trust me it can be really entertaining. Just do not expect too much because I won’t guarantee 100% that you will find the man/woman of your life there…but we never know.
The Art Of Seduction And Relationships
June 26th, 2010I met Dustin a few years ago. He is a role model of a man that naturally controls the philosophy of the art of seduction with women. Some time ago he told me the following story about a girl he started dating. Many men, who read our eBooks and attend our seminars, find a relationship, but then later they actually feel they have a problem. That is, early in relationship or marriage. Unfortunately our world, the world of seduction and the art of seduction, does not provide enough resources and knowledge about relationships. Therefore, we give it a special emphasis in our eBook. But I want to give you here a glimpse of a very unique concept, about building a relationship with a girl. The following is a summary of my conversation with Dustin:
“Two weeks ago I met someone and started dating her. Status and character – the girl is a serious company director, looks good and full of confidence.
On the second date I told her I was looking for long term, serious relationship, but in order to find the right girl for me, “the brightest star in the sky”, I go out with several girls at the same time. I told her that because I believe in sincerity and in being an open person. The girl wasn’t a sucker either, a ripe woman, with a high social status, who agreed to what I told her, and informed me that she’s going out with several men simultaneously as well.
Two weeks since then, we met each other relatively quite often, considering we are two busy people. On the weekend she was supposed to go to New York to supervise a group of about 5,000 people. Of course, she got the grand suite in one of the grandest hotels in New York. Two weeks before that, she registered two of her good friends for the same hotel for the weekend. Earlier in the week before, the trip to New York, I informed her that this week I’ve decided to give her a test. When she asked me what the test was, I refused to answer, because the test was to examine the essence of her behavior, and it was clear to me that since she wanted to enhance the bond between us, if I tell her what the test is, she will make sure to pass it. I can tell you, that the test was, to see if she would invite me to New York. You must remember that she did not pay for hotel.
On Tuesday night we met again. That day I told her that I won’t see her until Sunday after her return from New York. The next day she decided to go out with her friends to a known bar in L. A. and invited me to join them. To me this was not acceptable. For a girl who wants to have a relationship with me, and is about to go on a weekend in New York, should spend the evening before her trip with me, and not invite me to a night with her friends. Our goodbye was pretty cold, and I didn’t kiss her goodbye. We developed a procedure in which I call her to make sure that by the end of the evening she got home safely. That night, of course, I didn’t call her to make sure if she arrived home safely. Even in the morning I haven’t sent her the good morning message she started to get used to.
Wednesday night before she left to the bar, our conversation has opened up, and I told her that I was expecting her to invite me to New York to stay with her on this weekend. She explained to me that she had already had invited her friends, and could not cancel them out. This is the place to make it clear, that two days earlier, one of her friends asked me if I can join the trip and, that she thought it would be very nice if I’ll join. I assured her that I was not happy with her course of action. According to my standards, following our conversation, she was supposed to cancel her evening at the bar, and to come and meet me. Instead, she told me she would be happy if I get to the bar and join her. I assured her there is no way that I’m coming to the bar. And I’ve explained her that I did not want to see her. In this way, it’s over between us. There were more conversations with a mutual friend that the both of us were talking to, but I gave our mutual friend a message, and the relationship between us is over.
On Friday evening I received an SMS from her: “Happy Holydays. I Miss U”. I responded with: “Happy Holydays” by a virtue of the required basic manners. The following message was: “You want to make up?” I told her: “I’m not angry – I just realized it could not fit, that’s all”.
For me, a person cannot change his basic nature. A person can only do it in order to please someone or to obtain an interest for himself, for a short and limited period (such as a girl who is interested in the relationship at the beginning). Once I recognize a behavioral pattern that is not right for me, I just choose to cut. I think that when people meet each other, they try to please the other side, in order to have a successful relationship. This thing is slowly fading. If you recognize from the start, a bad behavioral pattern, it is really recommended to just cut the relationship. Many times men are willing to compromise at the beginning of the connection and go towards the other side, thinking that the other side will get better in the future and will realize its own mistakes. Our experience proves that it is not always true, but the opposite is true. Many times the girl wants to show early in the relationship, that she’s going towards the guy, but when the relationship settles down, she is less willing to please her partner, and her real character and nature is revealed.
I hope that you have managed to understand a little, how does a successful man, interprets the Art Of Seduction, not only on its basic level, but also on the more advanced levels of the relationship with the girl.
source: http://www.renhot.com/the-art-of-seduction-and-relationships.html
Bought a house, so I must want kids?
June 25th, 2010By Audrey Irvine, CNN
STORY HIGHLIGHTS
- Audrey Irvine opened her new house to family and friends for her birthday party
- Friends saw two spare bedrooms as a chance to ask her about having children
- The questions made her wonder if the house would lead to marriage, kids, dog
- Decides next birthday, she would borrow a dog to really get people talking
Atlanta, Georgia (CNN) — Birthdays are always a good time for reflection. My 20s were mostly fun times, hanging out and risk-taking professionally.
My 30s were about really focusing on the career and traveling to places I finally had some money to afford.
Now, one year into my 40s, I’m blessed with home ownership and the realization that I am officially a “grown-up.” The childish mistakes that you could laugh off in your 20s and consider a growing experience in your 30s should now be gone by 40.
When you’re dating after 40, the reaction you get from family and friends on your birthday is also totally different.
I decided to have my latest birthday party at my new house. It was a nice gathering of family and friends, including the man that I have been dating for a couple of months.
For some of my family and friends, it was the first time they were seeing my newly purchased home. I was excited to show folks my proud accomplishment of home ownership.
Each group that I showed around the house –regardless of age or gender — had the same question when they saw the two spare bedrooms.
“So, what do you plan to do with THESE bedrooms?”
I pondered the question each time, realizing I couldn’t say I’d use it as an office since I had one set up downstairs. My answers varied from “how about a guest room” to “possibly a home gym” to “I really don’t know.”
Their reaction each and every time was exactly the same: “How about some kids?” My first response was “with whom?” — seriously, I am not married — then I realized they were referring to my new beau.
I started stammering and was slightly embarrassed, especially when he was in my presence for some of these questions.
It seems folks get really comfortable with certain questions after you pass that important milestone of 40.
I gave all the right answers: that buying a house made more sense than a townhouse in this market, I realized the amount of equity I could get buying in this neighborhood and of course the first-time home buyer credit was too much to pass up.
No one seemed interested in those answers, so the conversation quickly changed to something else.
After all, if I were in my 20s or 30s and dating, the house likely would have been viewed by most as a great investment. Also, it’s not to say that these questions about marriage didn’t occur in those earlier years. But somehow in your 40s, a choice had to be made.
Society does seem to put an enormous amount of pressure on women once they hit the later years of childbearing age. Assumptions are made that every personal decision is a reflection of your desire to have, or not have, children.
So, needless to say, my friends and family saw my house as a symbol of my last-ditch effort to claim a white picket fenced yard filled with kids. These were all questions that I never expected to confront at a casual birthday barbecue.
The questions — but more importantly my reaction — made me consider the possibility that I did subconsciously purchase this house hoping that I would fill those bedrooms with kids instead of workout equipment. Was I, in fact, laying the groundwork for the future I hoped to have — of marriage, children and a dog?
At the closing attorney’s office the day I bought the house, I remember being more interested in the incredible investment I just made.
After all the birthday party guests had left, I asked my beau if the questions about children made him feel uncomfortable.
He smartly answered “no” and seemed surprised that I never expected that question to come up. I quickly pointed out to him that if the roles were reversed, I didn’t think that people would make that assumption with a man.
So, I might have another barbecue for the Fourth of July. Just to make things interesting and confuse folks, I might just rent a dog and watch the assumptions begin.
Editor’s note: Audrey Irvine is a senior assignment manager for CNN. Her experiences in the dating world inspire her “Relationship Rant” column. Check back every week for her take on dating and relationships.
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Men More Affected than Woman by Ups and Downs of Relationships
June 12th, 2010ABC News
Men More Affected than Woman by Ups and Downs of Relationships
Guys Take it Harder, Turn to Drugs and Alcohol
By COURTNEY HUTCHISON
Jun. 11, 2010—
Contrary to popular belief, men are more affected by a rocky relationship than their female counterparts, according to new research from Wake Forest University.
Research shows that women have a harder time coping with a breakup, but the guys are the ones who feel more stress and strain when the relationship hits a rough patch, researchers found. On the upside, men also get more of a psychological and emotional boost when the relationship is healthy.
“Common wisdom says that women are more hurt by problems in a relationship,” says Robin Simon, lead researcher on the study and a sociologist at Wake Forest, “but we found that the benefits of support [in a relationship] and the disadvantages of strain are exaggerated for the men.”
“Men are more sensitive than we often think they are,” she says.
For the study, Simon and co-author Anne Barrett, associate professor of sociology at Florida State University, drew on mental health and relationship data from over a thousand college-aged youths in south Florida.
They found that while men often put forth a brave front in the face of a faltering romance, they were hurting emotionally more than the women were — they just didn’t show it in the same way.
While women tend to get depressed when they are hurt or upset, men express their distress through substance use or abuse, Simon says. In the study, the more relationship problems a guy had, the more likely he was to score high on substance abuse measures, including those that gauge emotional issues associated with drug dependence, she says.
These results may point to a societal shift in the way that young men today experience relationships, gender and relationship experts say.
“These boys are more likely to have experienced a divorce in their family,” Simon says, “and this might make them more sensitive to the ups and downs of a relationship. They are more aware of the frailties of relationships than past generations.”
The study was published in the June edition of the Journal of Health and Social Behaviour.
Big Boys Don’t Cry, They Drink
Though these findings run counter to popular wisdom about the way men handle their relationships, gender and relationship experts were not surprised by these results.
“Women are more naturally expressive,” says Audrey Nelson, author of “Code Switching: How to Talk so Men Will Listen.” “We’ll cry, show our feelings when a women is having a hard time, she has two or three friends she can talk to, to ease the pain. Men have the same feelings and emotions, but they have no outlet.”
“One of the ten commandments of “masculinity” is ‘thou shalt not be vulnerable,’” she says, “so they self-medicate the feelings with drugs and alcohol and drown their vulnerability, rejection, sadness.”
Nelson says the difference between the sexes has to do with both how women and men are wired neurologically and taught socially.
Research shows that the region of a woman’s brain related to compassion and empathy is larger than a man’s, she says, so “straight out of the womb she’s more nurturing.”
Then, society trains girls to express their feelings — though not their anger, she notes — while men are taught not to cry, not to show vulnerability. In fact, she says “the only sanctioned emotion for men to express publicly is anger. It’s no surprise that men turn to alcohol to numb the [unwanted] emotions.”
Today’s Boys: Generation Vexed?
The young men in the study were more likely to have “mothers employed outside the home, fathers absent or dependent on the mother’s income, or a child of divorce” than past generations, Simon says.
This may be at the heart of why young men today may be more sensitive to the trials of a relationship, she says.
Alternatively, Frances Cohen Praver, an author and psychologist in Locust Valley, New York, says the gender difference might be because women are less sensitive to these issues today.
“Women are more autonomous and independent. They need to love and be loved, but they can get love from their friends and family,” she says.
This might also be why men in the study benefited more from the support of a healthy romantic relationship — because they were getting support they otherwise wouldn’t get.
But the issue cannot be explained by the social support element alone, Simon warns. “We can’t tease out whether it’s their emotional development at this time in their life, or if it’s this generation, or what,” she says.
So as for what causes these emotional gender differences, “That’s the million dollar question,” she says.
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Dating Preferences Often Determined by Strangers-Study found attraction was higher if others viewed person as attractive
June 9th, 2010TUESDAY, June 8 (HealthDay News) — The opinions of total strangers can greatly influence your choice of romantic partners, a new study suggests.
The research included 40 male and 40 female college students who watched videos of eight speed-dating sessions. The Indiana University researchers assessed the students’ potential romantic interest in the video participants.
Overall, the male students’ interest in the women in the speed-dating sessions increased after viewing the videos, but their interest increased much more if the men in the video appeared to be interested in the women and if the men were considered to be as handsome or more so than the male student.
Female students’ interest in men in the video increased when women in the video appeared interested in the men and decreased if the women in the video appeared uninterested.
“We might think that searching for mates is a process best done individually, that we can best gather the appropriate information by ourselves,” lead author Skyler Place, a researcher in Indiana University’s Department of Psychological and Brain Sciences, said in a university news release. “But humans, like many other animals, also pay attention to the preferences of others, to make for a more efficient search process. Who others like might also be a good choice for ourselves.”
The study was released online in advance of publication in an upcoming issue of the journal Evolution and Human Behavior.
“Of course people care about what friends and family think of their potential romantic partners. Surprisingly, we showed that complete strangers also matter,” Place said.
More information
For more on first impressions of the opposite sex, go to the Association for Psychological Science.
– Robert Preidt
SOURCE: Indiana University, news release, June 7, 2010
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